A) Stay when under fire:
• When it gets tough a son will stay and an employee will leave—a son lays down his life

John 10:10-13—-11 “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. 12 The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. 13 The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep

B) Sons are submitting not questioning:
• Sons naturally honor the chain of command rather than constantly question authority.
• Can you submit to someone you don’t like?
• Jesus was clear about designated authority—rejecting it is rejecting him.
• Son honor the chain of command rather than question authority.

C) Make adjustments not excuses:
• A son will take responsibility for a mistake and make adjustments rather than give excuses.
• It’s a natural human response to give an excuse.

D) Build the house not ourselves:
• Building the house is more important than working in the house.
• Sons will bond new people to the family not themselves
Acts 20:30 Even from your own number men will arise and distort the truth in order to draw away disciples after them
• Son’s know that the vision of the house comes first because the vision came before the son. Sons don’t try to change the vision but build it.
• Vision is there before they were—build the vision
• Vision is non—negotionable—-the way we do it is up in the air
Philippians 2:20-22 20 I have no one else like him, who will show genuine concern for your welfare. 21 For everyone looks out for their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. 22 But you know that Timothy has proved himself, because as a son with his father he has served with me in the work of the gospel

A) Talk about the team and not about self:
• Language
Words Like: us, our and we
Not words like: me, my or mine
• The real heart will be exposed when times get tough.
• It’s easy to speak family when all is well.
B) Honor not exposure:
• Fathers are not always perfect but we are commanded to Honor.
• Sons were never intended to correct Fathers.
Genesis 9: Noah and Ham —- Noah drunk and naked in the tent
One brother started telling people
Two brothers knew their honor was attached to their father and covered him
• Father is going to make mistakes—normal life stuff—wrong word, bad decision, wrong attitude—a true son of Gods vision—will honor and cover up any of those short comings—

C) Extend honor down not just up:
• All dream teamers—honor them as much as possible…even sometimes more than the senior pastor—always lifting them up….always honor someone—-
• PUBLIC honoring means more—-honor the mother for the student—speak highly of people around the senior—bring up the name—so he knows—
• Speaking highly of the students in front of their parents

D) Transparency not false cover:
• You need to be secure otherwise you might just say the things others wants to hear.
• Because of the security of their relationship, sons are willing to share their hearts and feelings with the father without retribution or punishment.
• If you are not a son you are afraid to be truthful
Luke 16:12, And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own
• How you treat the senior pastor it is how your people treat will treat you

Feel like a son

1. Building not maintaining:
• Feeling the success of the church is more important than my personal reward.
• It’s more about building the house of God rather than your account—building the business.
• We are Co-Heirs with Christ in the house.

2. Inheriting not taking:-
• If you are not trustworthy with what you get you wont get more.
• You are being tested when in disagreement with your boss/senior pastor/authority.
• God is thinking can I reward you later on with your own—mindset of inheriting not taking—The reward is sometimes far away.
• A son will wait to be “sent” with a blessing rather than leave on his own.
Luke 16:12 And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?—
3. Embrace discipline or correction:
• Discipline is for children not “to” children, Discipline is Not rejection.
• This is the toughest one.
Hebrews 12:7 7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?
• There has to be relationship in order for the correction to be received.
• If no correction—we might want to be concerned—that means that the authority over us is not going concerned about our growth.